In my last blog I talked about how I created a perception that I was “tough as nails” – untouchable.   The appearance that I innocently created to protect myself, created for me a reality.  A very lonely and unhappy reality

Yes, most everyone perceived me just that way, untouchable.  So I lived in a very isolated world.  Not because I wanted that but because the appearance I created made people not want to get close to me.

Appearances create perceptions and perceptions create reality.  There are two ways to look at this, the perception that you are giving out and the perception that you are making.

It only takes the average person 10 seconds or less to make an opinion about you.  And in today’s technology age with proliferation of email and texting your appearance is limited to letters without the essence of your words.  People are having entire relationships via email! 

What I have come to learn is to do my best to project my true self when communicating with people.  This is not always easy and I don’t always get it right.  And when it comes to email, well I try to use the phone.  And I do my best to be deliberate, conscious, open and honest in all the communication I am giving out.

Now when it comes to my perceptions of others I do believe in “gut feelings” however, there have been times in my life where the filters that I have created colored my perception of people and situations.  When I judged to quickly, I judged without truly knowing the essence of the person.

So, today I do my best not to judge to quickly or harshly.  There was a reason I appeared tough as nails.  I must remember this when meeting others.  Our work is never done, we are all becoming.

What I have learned and continue to learn is to seek open and honest communication.  This is not a skill that I was taught growing up and I have found that true for most.  Fear of rejection plays a role in the appearance and communication projected,  that was my failing.  Game playing and manipulation are also very prevalent

Initially honesty does appear to make you vulnerable and can be very frightening, but it is actually a strength.  Open and honest communication will eliminate a lot of heart ache, trouble and mis-understandings.  Success in life will all come back to open and honest communication.

First you must begin with being honest with yourself.  If you can’t do that you can’t be honest with others and your relationships will suffer.  Being honest with self can be a scary proposition because there are things about us that we don’t really want to look at.  The sooner you open the door and windows to your soul the sooner you will be able to develop open, honest and loving communication and relationships with others.

When you can develop this level of communication with self and others all of your relationships prosper.

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That Which You Seek to Understand You Will Create; This is a Law of the Universe

February 27, 2010

“No man is an island.” I remember I was young when I first heard this phrase and really did not understand it. That which you seek to understand you will create; this is a law of the Universe. So the Universe created the circumstance for me to lean and understand what this really means. And now I do and I would not trade this experience for anything. I am a more loving and compassionate person because of it.

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Are You Cooperating with The Timeline of Manifestation?

February 23, 2010

If everything is divine then the timing of it’s manifestation is also divine.

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A Foot in Computer Moment!

February 20, 2010

In many of my writings you have heard me talk about the ineffective communication medium of email. You have also heard me write about being conscious about the words you select and how you say them.

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Is It Possible That You Are Your Own Worst Enemy?

February 18, 2010

Opportunity abounds, the Universe provides you everything you ask for. You just have to be willing to and have the vision to see the possibilities. Just like Roger Bannister. Everyone but Roger Bannister thought it impossible to run a 4 minute mile. He was open to and had the ability to see and believe that is was possible.

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Have Your Words Been the Problem?

February 16, 2010

Energetically it’s like gashing open wounds in your skin. I don’t like being this graphic but I feel it’s the only way you can actually understand what happens when you use words in anger. I am sure that you have heard the phrase “words cut like a knife”.

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Will You Accept Less Than?

February 13, 2010

Will you accept less than you desire because something is better than nothing?
Will you fill your cup with mediocrity because the void is unbearable?
Will you consent to unhappiness because you don’t have the patience for your desires to manifest?

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Will You be Right or Happy?

February 10, 2010

Living your life analyzing each decision and move through a list of pros and cons might make your argument accurate and right but it will make your life as dreary as a spread sheet.

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Candace Exposed!

February 8, 2010

Welcome to Becoming Candace. Some of you might think how egotistical, others may say who is this girl? Well keep reading and you will find out. I have been prodded, encouraged, and moved to begin sharing my journey, story, thoughts and words with anyone who chooses to partake, in hopes that it may offer some insight into your own life.

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